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Last week I introduced a new month long community blogging project on self-care. Self-care is a big topic and encompasses many different aspects. And self-care will look different for each person.
The first step to self-care is knowing yourself. Understanding what fills you up, and what drains you. Knowing how much sleep you need to function at your best, knowing how much clutter you can stand before you start to lose your mind, knowing which foods nourish your body, and knowing what activities leave you feeling replenished and renewed are just a few of the many things you need to know about yourself in order to practice self-care effectively.
Several years ago when my husband and I were in marriage counseling, our counselor had us take the Myers Briggs personality assessment. It was so eye opening for us to each learn more about our own personalities and each other’s personalities and then discuss and discover how that translates to our marriage. Since then, I have continued to think about personality types and learn more about my own personality type.
Last year, a group of my closest college girlfriends and I met up in our college town for a weekend getaway and what did we talk about a good majority of the time? Our Myers Briggs personality profiles! The official test costs money to take, but there are lots of available (and accurate) ones online that you can take. This one is a good one that’s free and doesn’t take long. It’s fun learning your personality type and it becomes almost addicting discussing with others all about the different types of personalities.
Other than having fun discussions with friends, I haven’t explored my personality profile in super great depth, but one of the most helpful things I’ve pulled from it is that I am an introvert. This doesn’t necessarily mean I’m quiet, or shy, or don’t like to spend time with friends. But it does mean that I need some time in my day on my own. What fills me up is when I have time to myself.
With little kids at home, and because I homeschool my daughter, I am around people (most of the time, little people that talk a lot) all day long. So I have to make sure that I am carving out quiet, alone time each day.
I have both my kids (4 and 7,) take a rest time each afternoon. This means they are in their rooms quietly doing something: napping, reading a book, or playing. It doesn’t always go as planned but most of the time it allows me to get even just a little bit of time to myself each day, which is what I need to refuel.
If you’re a fellow introvert, here are some helpful resources:
- 6 Survival Strategies for the Introverted Mom
- Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking (Kindle version is only $2.99 at the time of posting!)
- 5 Secrets of an Introverted Mother
Whether or not you take the Myers Briggs or some other type of personality assessment, it’s important to know and understand yourself and know what you need to re-charge.
It might help to stop and jot down the following and spend some time thinking about these things as the first step to figuring out what self-care might look like for you:
- How much sleep do I need?
- I feel my best physically when I….
- I feel energized when I…
- It brings me joy when…
- I feel at peace when my home…
- At what time of day am I usually at my best? My worst?
- I feel overwhelmed when…
- I am most relaxed when…
- I feel better when I have a schedule/plan in place OR I like lots of flexibility in my day.
I recently made a Bits (and Chunks) of Joy List, which is basically just my own personal list of things that I know will bring me joy, recharge me, and fill me up so that when I have a few minutes or more, I will turn to those things rather than doing something that might drain me more.
Don’t forget to check out the wonderful posts from the other hosts this week:
Stacy from A Delightful Home
Beth from Red and Honey
Erin from The Humbled Homemaker
Nicole from Gidget Goes Home
Mindy from This Crazy Wonderful Life
Leigh Ann from Intentional By Grace
Emily from Live Renewed
Now it’s your turn! Link up below and share any of your posts on knowing yourself and how that relates to self-care or leave a comment sharing your thoughts.
Join us next week as we discuss Health & Spirituality and how it relates to self-care.
Also, don’t forget to follow the Embracing Self-Care Pinterest board for all kinds of great ideas!