Embracing Self-Care: Know Thyself

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Last week I introduced a new month long community blogging project on self-care. Self-care is a big topic and encompasses many different aspects. And self-care will look different for each person.

The first step to self-care is knowing yourself. Understanding what fills you up, and what drains you. Knowing how much sleep you need to function at your best, knowing how much clutter you can stand before you start to lose your mind, knowing which foods nourish your body, and knowing what activities leave you feeling replenished and renewed are just a few of the many things you need to know about yourself in order to practice self-care effectively.

Several years ago when my husband and I were in marriage counseling, our counselor had us take the Myers Briggs personality assessment. It was so eye opening for us to each learn more about our own personalities and each other’s personalities and then discuss and discover how that translates to our marriage. Since then, I have continued to think about personality types and learn more about my own personality type.

Last year, a group of my closest college girlfriends and I met up in our college town for a weekend getaway and what did we talk about a good majority of the time? Our Myers Briggs personality profiles! The official test costs money to take, but there are lots of available (and accurate) ones online that you can take. This one is a good one that’s free and doesn’t take long. It’s fun learning your personality type and it becomes almost addicting discussing with others all about the different types of personalities.

Other than having fun discussions with friends, I haven’t explored my personality profile in super great depth, but one of the most helpful things I’ve pulled from it is that I am an introvert. This doesn’t necessarily mean I’m quiet, or shy, or don’t like to spend time with friends. But it does mean that I need some time in my day on my own. What fills me up is when I have time to myself.

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With little kids at home, and because I homeschool my daughter, I am around people (most of the time, little people that talk a lot) all day long. So I have to make sure that I am carving out quiet, alone time each day.

I have both my kids (4 and 7,) take a rest time each afternoon. This means they are in their rooms quietly doing something: napping, reading a book, or playing. It doesn’t always go as planned but most of the time it allows me to get even just a little bit of time to myself each day, which is what I need to refuel.

If you’re a fellow introvert, here are some helpful resources:

Whether or not you take the Myers Briggs or some other type of personality assessment, it’s important to know and understand yourself and know what you need to re-charge.

It might help to stop and jot down the following and spend some time thinking about these things as the first step to figuring out what self-care might look like for you:

  • How much sleep do I need?
  • I feel my best physically when I….
  • I feel energized when I…
  • It brings me joy when…
  • I feel at peace when my home…
  • At what time of day am I usually at my best? My worst?
  • I feel overwhelmed when…
  • I am most relaxed when…
  • I feel better when I have a schedule/plan in place OR I like lots of flexibility in my day.

I recently made a Bits (and Chunks) of Joy List, which is basically just my own personal list of things that I know will bring me joy, recharge me, and fill me up so that when I have a few minutes or more, I will turn to those things rather than doing something that might drain me more.

Don’t forget to check out the wonderful posts from the other hosts this week:
Stacy from A Delightful Home
Beth from Red and Honey
Erin from The Humbled Homemaker
Nicole from Gidget Goes Home
Mindy from This Crazy Wonderful Life
Leigh Ann from Intentional By Grace
Emily from Live Renewed

Now it’s your turn! Link up below and share any of your posts on knowing yourself and how that relates to self-care or leave a comment sharing your thoughts.

Join us next week as we discuss Health & Spirituality and how it relates to self-care.

Also, don’t forget to follow the Embracing Self-Care Pinterest board for all kinds of great ideas!

The Just Clean Something Challenge

Just Clean Something Challenge

Cleaning is not my strong suit. I don’t enjoy cleaning, but I would like a clean house. It’s a tough place to be in. My current cleaning philosophy is: keep it clean enough so it’s livable. Of course, everyone has different definitions of livable, which can be tricky. But for the most part, I keep things (kinda sorta) picked up, the counters wiped up, dishes done. Then once every week or sometimes two (!) we do a more thorough cleaning, and do the floors, toilets, dusting, etc. I would love to get better at cleaning regularly though and not just waiting until I can’t stand it anymore and then flipping out.

Yesterday my friend Rebekah mentioned that she would be running her Just Clean Something Challenge and I decided to participate. It’s the perfect challenge for me because all I have to do is just clean something. One thing. Anything. So some days I fully expect that I might throw a load of laundry in the wash and be good with that. But for the most part I’m using this challenge to get myself into a better habit of doing a little bit of cleaning each day. I’m also hoping that I’ll tackle some of the things I rarely clean and use this month to do some spring cleaning for once!


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One of the reasons I don’t clean as often as I would like is because it just feels like sometimes there’s no point. Case in point: the toilet. Today I cleaned the toilet, but I have a 4 yr. old boy, so there’s that. And it just felt so un-motivating because I know as soon as he uses the toilet all that cleaning I just did is done for.

Then there’s my other issue (which I guess could be a good issue to have): when I start cleaning I start to notice all the things that need to be cleaned, and again…it gets really overwhelming because I know I can’t do it all in the time I have. So today, my plan was to clean my one thing (the toilet). And then I decided I needed to clean the sink too…and the kitchen sink and counters, and then I noticed how bad the floors need sweeping. So it’s a double edged sword. On the one hand, it’s good because I started with cleaning the toilet and then ended up getting even more done. But on the other hand I feel a little discouraged because I don’t have time to do it all.

So I’m using this challenge a bit like an experiment to see if:

1. I can become more disciplined in cleaning.

2. I will see the benefit to doing a little bit each day even though I won’t be able to have a perfectly clean house all at once, I’m hoping I will enjoy having some of it clean more often and maybe see that something is better than nothing.

3. Cleaning a little bit each day will help me avoid getting to the breaking point every other week or so.

I do best when I’m part of a challenge and have some accountability so I’m joining with my friend Rebekah and I’ll be checking in on her Facebook page each day for accountability. I’ll also post regular updates on my Facebook page as well. So join us! It’ll be fun! Or maybe not exactly fun…but we’ll all feel good about cleaning and it will be more fun doing it together!


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Free Printable Spring Cleaning Checklist | The Complete Guide to Imperfect Homemaking

My Green Clean Pinterest Board

Cleaning: love it or hate it? Do you have a regular cleaning routine? Or do you have a hard time getting motivated, like I do?

Embracing Self-Care

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We wear our busyness almost like a badge…with a sense of pride when someone asks how we’re doing and we answer with a sigh and say “Good, I’m just sooooo busy,” and then proceed to list off all the things we’re so busy with. And we are busy. There’s no doubt about that. So on those rare Saturday mornings when I stay in bed, caught up in reading a good novel, I almost feel a sense of embarrassment. And if someone were to ask me what I did over the weekend, I would hesitate to admit that I lounged around all morning reading!

But is it really so wrong to carve some time out to care for ourselves?

I think that sometimes self-care invokes a certain hesitation in some when they hear the word…what? Care? For myself? Almost as if that is somehow wrong. And while I definitely feel that we are called to serve one another I also see the benefit in caring for ourselves SO that we can care for others. If I have no energy, no patience, no reserves…how am I going to be as a parent? A wife? A friend? Snapping at my kids, impatient, frustrated, and too burnt out to have anything to offer others.

I’m so excited to be taking some time this spring to be intentional about self-care. To set aside some time, develop some practices, and make some space. To learn how I can take good care of myself so that I in turn can give more to those around me.

And to make it even better…I’m joining up with several other bloggers and hopefully YOU as well!

Announcing Embracing Self Care: A Community Blogging Project

For the next 4 weeks, each Wednesday, I’ll be posting about a different form of self-care and sharing my thoughts, challenges, and how I’m planning on being intentional about embracing that particular form of self-care.  I will be joined by some of my dearest blogging friends:

Stacy from A Delightful Home
Beth from Red and Honey
Erin from The Humbled Homemaker
Nicole from Gidget Goes Home
Mindy from This Crazy Wonderful Life
Leigh Ann from Intentional By Grace
Emily from Live Renewed

These are the topics we’ll be focusing on:

  • Know Thyself (April 2): This is the perfect place to start. Once we understand more about ourselves, (how much quiet time we need, if we operate better with a schedule or with flexibility, what charges us up and fills our reserves) then we have a starting place for knowing how to care for ourselves and avoid burn out.
  • Health & Spirituality (April 9): This one is pretty self explanatory, but super important. Knowing how to take care of our health and spirituality is essential to self-care.
  • Peace in the Home (April 16): This is doing whatever needs to be done to restore peace to our home–decluttering, making a routine/rhythm or daily schedule, etc.
  • Taking Time for R&R (April 23): This includes healthy ways of treating ourselves, and taking time to fully rest and relax. And we can share lots of fun ways to do this!

If you have a blog, we invite you to join us and link up each week. If not, then I hope you will share your thoughts in the comments. Each week’s post will end with a link-up and we would LOVE for you to share your own posts on these topics. Let’s learn from each other and be an encouragement to one another as we take time to develop healthier self-care practices so we can serve our families and others well.

We’ve also started a Pinterest board dedicated to Embracing Self-Care.

My Latest Obsession: Jamberry Nail Wraps

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On my nails above: Jamberry Kiss nail lacquer and Happy-Go-Lucky nail wraps.

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Just for fun, I thought I’d share about my latest obsession: Jamberry Nail Wraps. I’m not one to get my nails done often because they chip off within a couple days and I hate the look of chipped nails. I’ve also recently started to get concerned about all the toxic ingredients in nail polish. So when I saw a friend having a Facebook party for Jamberry nail wraps, I decided to check it out.

The first thing that caught my attention is that they are non-toxic and don’t chip. They last up to two weeks on your fingernails and 6 weeks on your toenails. There are tons of designs and they looked super fun! My main concern was that I would have trouble applying the wraps because I’m really not good at doing my nails! I watched the application video and decided I could probably manage it!


They have this great deal for Buy 3 Wraps, Get 1 Free and I thought I would probably do that…but then I decided I wanted to get the application kit and mini-heater to make it easier on myself with application. I’m usually not one to jump into direct sales companies, but I noticed that they had a starter kit for $99 and it had everything I wanted in it, plus it would give me the option to be a consultant if I wanted to, so I decided to just go for it! And I’ve been having so much fun! My original thought was that if I just made back the money I spent on the starter kit that would be awesome, and that was easy!

So far I’ve just been doing Facebook parties, which is great because I can do it all from the comfort of my own home. And I also love spoiling my hostesses with the awesome hostess rewards! It’s so fun! Plus, I can do a party for anyone, even if they don’t live nearby.

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My daughter and I have been having a blast doing our nails–Jamberry has an adorable Jamberry Juniors line for kids through age 8. I feel better about using these on my daughter’s nails than toxic nail polish. And as an added bonus–it’s helping her stop biting her nails! So far we’ve done two sets of wraps on her:


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Sprinkles & Frosting                                                      Swiss Dot & Siesta

Here’s a quick run-down on all the things I love about Jamberry nail wraps:

  • No Dry Time
  • No Chipping
  • Last 2 Weeks on Fingers
  • Last up to 6 Weeks on Toes
  • Over 300 Designs–you can browse them all here
  • Non-Toxic
  • No Harmful Chemicals
  • Formaldehyde Free

And of course, I love having fun nails and not having to pay the price of a manicure to get them! Each sheet of nail wraps gives you 3-4 applications and if you take advantage of the Buy 3, Get 1 Free deal it breaks down to costing only about $3-$4 every time you do your nails.

FindingaHostIf you’re interested in hosting a Facebook party, you can request a party here. I do all the work, and you just invite your Facebook friends and earn free wraps! Or if you’re interested in attending a Facebook party and learning more about Jamberry nail wraps first, just leave me a comment or contact me and I’ll invite you to my next one. They usually last about an hour and I share information about Jamberry nail wraps, have a few fun games, giveaway a “door” prize, and answer questions. The nice thing is it’s on Facebook and you can pop in and out during the party or even just check it all out whenever it’s convenient for you.

You can also just browse all the designs and shop here. And feel free to join me on my Facebook page to stay up to date on all the latest!

Thanks for letting me share about my latest fun obsession!

Do you like having your nails done? Have you heard of Jamberry nail wraps?


10 Fun & Useful Easter Basket Gift Ideas for Kids

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I enjoy putting together little Easter baskets for my kids each year, and I’m always looking for fun items that they will enjoy but also that we can get some use out of. It’s perfect because Easter is in the spring and we’re usually in need of some practical spring and summer items.

Here are some of my favorite items to put in their Easter baskets:
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1. A new bathing suit for summer.

2. Summer sandals or Crocs.

3. Summer pajamas.

4. Devotional or Prayer Journal:

5. Art Supplies:

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6. Finger Puppets: I love this cute animal finger puppets set.

7. Garden Tool Set: Kids Garden Tool Set: This is usually the time of year when we start planting our small garden and I like to get the kids involved as much as possible. Having their very own gardening tools helps!

8. Play silks: I put one of these in each of my kid’s Easter baskets last year and they love them. They’re great for imaginative play and come in tons of fun colors.

9. A new book:

10. Music: We love the Seeds Family Worship CD’s.

Do you put together Easter Baskets for your kids? What do you like to fill them with?

The Bits (and Chunks) of Joy List


Inspired by one of my favorite bloggers and her bits and chunks of joy list, I’ve started one of my own, which I plan/hope to continually add to. The idea is to have a list of things that you love and that fill you up for those moments of time when you may usually turn to checking Facebook, email, or Instagram yet again.

Just a few minutes:

Write a short card to send to a friend.

Make and enjoy a cup of tea.

Add some things to my gratitude list.

Pick some flowers to brighten up my home.

Mix up a quick scrub to gift or enjoy myself.

Call or text a friend.

30 minutes or a bit more:

Read a book. Sitting outside and reading a book is even better!

Bake or make something.

Play the piano.

Plant some flowers or garden.

Out and about:

Go for a walk.

Pick up some flowers and bring to a friend.

Browse a bookstore.

So now the trick is, to actually do these things and break the habits I already have in place in order to create some new ones. What’s on your list?

My Favorite Educational Apps for Kids

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We’re new iPad owners and I have been so impressed by all that we’ve found in the way of fun and educational iPad apps for kids. I decided when we got the iPad to only put educational apps and games on it because I knew if there were other just for fun apps on there my kids would gravitate towards those. I’m guessing there has to be a way to lock certain apps so the kids can’t use them without a password, but I haven’t figured that out yet.

We’ve also been trying to be good about setting time limits for how long the kids are on the iPad. Usually if my daughter uses it at all, it’s during her quiet rest time in the afternoon. I have her read for at least 30 min-1 hr first, and then I give her a little iPad time.

My son is the one we really have to watch, because I’ve already noticed he has a tendency to get sucked in and it becomes really hard to pull him away. We try to remember to set a timer for 15 min. so that he can actually hear it go off and that’s his signal that it’s time to stop. I’ll admit though, that we’re not always on top of this as much as we could be.

Here are the apps we’ve found so far that we love.

Apps for Preschoolers:

Endless Alphabet: This has got to be one of my favorites. Cute little monsters come along and mess up words, scattering the letters all over the screen. Then, as you drag each letter back to its place in the word, the letter/monster makes the sound that corresponds with its letter. It’s adorable, plus teaches letter sounds and new vocabulary!

Monkey Preschool LunchBox: This app uses a cute little monkey to teach kids basic counting, shape identification, matching, size identification (smallest, largest), colors, and some basic letter identification.

Funbrain Jr.: This app is a little more advanced than the other two. It has several different games. * Free

  • Balloon Blowup: The player has to identify which balloon has the most items in it and pop that balloon.
  • Flashy Cards: The player has to match picture cards with the letter the picture starts with.
  • Heat Wave: The player has to connect letters in alphabetical order.
  • Mushrooom Bounce: The player has to jump from mushroom to mushroom in number order.
  • Shape Shack: Player is given a pattern and has to choose which shape comes next in the pattern.

Grandma’s Garden: I love this one because it teaches kids colors, counting, letter identification, shapes, sizes, and matching and also includes educational videos all about gardening, planting, and vegetables. Plus Grandma sometimes dances when you get the right answers! And kids are learning all about vegetables too.

Grandpa’s Workshop: This app has the player help Grandpa in his workshop with different projects like painting (color identification), measuring, “cutting” boards into fractional pieces, number identification, and contains educational videos all about tools. As the player progresses they get to “build” a clubhouse.

Grandma Loves Bugs: Grandma is back and in this fun app uses cute little bugs to teach counting, letters, colors, matching lower and upper case letters, identifying the one that is different, matching, and has a fun magnifying glass to look up close at different bugs. Plus they learn about different bugs and how to identify them and Grandma does her crazy dancing again!

A-Z Music Videos from ABC.mouse: There’s a catchy song and music video for each letter of the alphabet. And by catchy, I mean…after I hear one of the songs it’s stuck in my head all day! But my 4 year old really loves these and they help him learn his letters, so it’s a sacrifice I’m willing to make! *Free

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Apps for Grade Schoolers:

Stack the States: This is my daughter’s favorite app and it has definitely improved her knowledge of states, capitals, and location of states. The player has to answer questions about which cities are in which states, capitals, state flags, identifying states, etc. and when they get a question right, they get to drop the states into a stack until the stack reaches a certain height. They earn states until they get the whole US Map filled in.

MoMA Art Lab: This app allows kids to create their own art masterpieces including sound compositions, shape poems, collages, and more. There’s also a section that teaches specific drawing techniques step by step. They can save all their masterpieces in their own Art Gallery. *Free

Grandma’s Kitchen: This is similar to Grandma’s Garden and Grandpa’s Kitchen, except with a kitchen theme. Players add ingredients to the bowl to make a cake, practice patterns with kitchen utensils, identify first two letters of words, identify equal parts, practice telling time, make compound words, counting practice, learn poems, put spices in alphabetical order, count and add by 10’s, There are also videos about different baking techniques and healthy eating.

Sushi Monster: This is one of my personal favorites! You get to practice addition and multiplication by feeding sushi to the different sushi monsters. *Free


Bible for Kids: This app is a favorite with my 4 year old. It reads various Bible stories aloud and the kids can interact with the pictures. They also ask questions to check for understanding. *Free

BrainPOP Jr. and BrainPOP: These are a couple of our favorite learning websites filled with videos for kids on all kinds of educational topics. You can check these out online or put the app on your iPad/iPhone.

WWF Together: This app from World Wildlife Fund features interactive information on endangered animals, including amazing videos, animal facts, image galleries, and a 3D globe that shows you how far away you are from different animals around the world. *Free

Nighty Night: This is an adorable interactive bedtime story where you turn off the light throughout the farm and say goodnight to all the animals. The thing I love about this app is that you can choose from all kinds of different languages to listen to the story in.

Like I said, we’re new to the iPad world, and I would love to hear of any educational apps you’ve found that your kids love!

Pinterest to Real Life {February 2014}

This month, pretty much the only Pinterest inspired things I tried were in the kitchen…but I’m okay with that because we had lots of successes and found a bunch of yummy new recipes.


New Recipes Tried and Loved

Real Food Slow Cooker Pulled Pork: This turned out delicious! I’m not usually big on pork, but this recipe had so much flavor and made for great leftovers as well.

Oatmeal Peanut Butter Chocolate Chip Cookies: My daughter helped me make these and declared them “the best cookies I’ve ever made”. We stuck them in the freezer so we didn’t eat them all in the span of one weekend and it’s been great just taking a few out at a time, letting them defrost and then enjoying them, but not going overboard!

Apple-Cheddar Fondue: We had this for Valentine’s dinner with french bread, broccoli, cubed potatoes, and sausage. Super easy to make and kid-friendly! Definitely will have it again.

For my husband’s birthday I made this delicious chocolate cake. This is the perfect recipe for when you need a chocolate fix. Easy and delicious!

I have been getting tons of cauliflower in my produce box, so we decided to try this Rigatoni with Roasted Cauliflower and Brussels Sprouts. We ended up really loving it so if you have lots of cauliflower on your hands, give this recipe a try!

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Since it was Valentine’s this month, we made these Clementine Valentine‘s to hand out to Charlotte’s classmates. They were definitely a hit with the parents, although some of the kids were not too sure!

That’s all I got to this month! Did you try any new recipes this month or make anything inspired by Pinterest? Come link up over at Gidget Goes Home and share your Pinterest to Real-Life.

Three Ways Alcoholism Has Helped My Marriage

Today I’m excited to have my husband, Rick, sharing about some important principles that we’ve been using in our marriage for the past couple years. The change that has happened in our marriage is nothing short of a miracle and I am so thankful to God for how He has worked in our lives.

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Hello, my name is Rick and I’m an Alcoholic. There, I said it…phew! I’m an Alcoholic in recovery and an Alcoholic who hasn’t had a drink, in any form, for two years one month and twenty three days. Based upon the previously mentioned condition I probably need not tell you that there was a point in time a few years ago that my marriage was, in a word, a nightmare. I’ll spare you all the gory details but suffice it to say there was little communication, zero trust, no companionship, and a general lack of any semblance of “normalcy” on all fronts. Over the last two years, one month, and twenty three days I’ve learned a thing or two about how to live in order to keep my condition at bay. My wife has so graciously asked me to jot a few of these things down because, both she and I agree there are a few basic principles that if applied in any marriage are sure to have a great effect.

Handing It Up

The principle that I’ve come to call “Handing it Up” involves letting go. There are few things in life that I can change. For many years I was under the delusion that if my wife would just behave in the manner that I saw fit I wouldn’t have any problems. Needless to say, I wasted the majority of the first six years of our marriage trying to convince her to see things my way. My wife and I are radically different people in pretty much every aspect of life. Trying to change her point of view leaves little room for common ground, understanding, or even simple listening. So, these days, whenever she and I find ourselves at an impasse I do my best to take whatever it is we are disagreeing about and…hand it up.

I believe in a God who listens and answers the prayers of those who honestly seek. When I hand it up, I give it to God and He takes it away so that I don’t have to carry the burden. The practical application in the moment is simple, and involves asking God to take whatever it is and to help me listen and understand. I don’t ask God to change her mind, I don’t ask God to make me right, nor do I ask God to make the problem disappear. The direct result of this process doesn’t make the issue go away, but it gives me ears to listen and makes way for open communication and common ground. Being as it’s a mental process of communication with God, it takes mere seconds and can be done in the midst of anything.

My Side of the Street

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Principle number two is very much connected with principle one and is commonly referred to as “My Side of the Street”. My problem is not her, them, you or anyone else. My problem, generally speaking, is me. Whenever something occurs in my life, there are very few times when I had nothing to do with whatever it is. At first glance my part in the mess may be hard to see, but 99.9% of the time it’s there. In fact, if I’m honest, I can usually trace any issue back to me trying to do something “my way” in one form or another. When I look for my part in whatever the problem is,  I find I have less problems.

This is because it’s my part that I can change. I have little control over anyone else.  I spent many years of married life trying to play a role I was never assigned. Things never seemed to change until I stopped trying to play God in my marriage. The catch here is I have to be willing to look, and I have to be willing to correct what I find. Being willing doesn’t mean being perfect and many times I fail. But, to coin a phrase, it’s about progress, not perfection and as such can be done by anyone provided they remain willing and open to change.


This brings me to principle number three, which is also interrelated with principles one and two. If I’m going to make any headway with one and two I’m going to have to do my utmost to live in a constant state of acceptance. Acceptance of not only my own shortcomings, but also the shortcomings of other people. Acceptance, in my humble opinion, is the answer to anything life throws at me and the answer to most any of my domestic problems as well. Acceptance requires resigning myself to the fact that most people, my wife included, are generally doing the best they can, with the tools of which they are equipped, at any given moment in time.

Once I’m able to see through my own selfish desires of the moment I’m able see my wife for the person God has made her. Then I might perhaps have the ability of entering into what it is that’s giving her trouble, as opposed to trying to change her mind about whatever the issue may be.

And acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing, situation — some fact of my life — unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing, or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment. Nothing, absolutely nothing, happens in God’s world by mistake…I need to concentrate not so much on what needs to be changed in the world as on what needs to be changed in me and in my attitudes.

Shakespeare said, “All the world’s a stage, and all the men and women merely players.” He forgot to mention I was the chief critic. I was always able to point out the flaw in every person, every situation…A.A. and acceptance have taught me that there is a bit of good in the worst of us and a bit of bad in the best of us; that we are all children of God and each have a right to be here. When I complain about me or about you, I am complaining about God’s handiwork. I am saying that I know better than God.

~”Acceptance Was the Answer”, Alcoholics Anonymous p. 417

All of these principles are symbiotic in nature. Each one relies on the one that came before and is not easily implemented without the one that comes next. As a direct result of doing what I can do to abide by what I have written here I have seen a great change take place in my married life. As I said before, my wife and I are about as different as they come. I am not perfect and miss the mark in all of these things on a fairly regular basis. But, provided I remain willing to practice, under these guidelines my wife and I are able to find a means of communication which makes way for a common ground that we can both understand and agree upon.

We hope this post gives you some easy, practical ideas to implement in your own marriage or really, in any relationship in your life. If your marriage isn’t what you’d like it to be, have hope. If you’re in a hard place with your marriage, Rick and I pray together most nights and would love to pray for you. Feel free to email me at krissa (at) morethanmundane (dot) com.

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10 Quick and Easy DIY Valentine’s Gifts

Don't worry, there's still time to make someone you love a gift for Valentine's Day! Here are 10 Quick & Easy DIY Valentine's Gifts | www.morethanmundane.com

Valentine’s Day is quickly approaching, so in our home this week we’ll be working on putting together something for the kids to bring to school for their Valentine’s parties, thanks to Pinterest, along with making this simple heart banner as a fun decoration for our home.

I also got to thinking it would be fun to make gifts for some friends and loved ones. I kind of miss being in elementary school and getting to pass out Valentines to all my friends. I love making homemade gifts and since I’m not super crafty, anything I’m going to make needs to be quick and easy, and not require too many ingredients.

Here are some ideas I came up with–any of these would be great to bless a friend, sister, mother, neighbor, or anyone in your life who you want to show love to. And all of them are easy enough that you still have time to make them happen before Valentine’s Day!

You can’t go wrong with a delicious sweet treat! Here are some Edible Gifts for the sweets lovers on your list:

roasted strawberry goat cheese ice cream

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1. Roasted Strawberry Goat Cheese Ice Cream | More Than Mundane

It might sound strange to give ice cream as a gift but I think most of us would love a pint of homemade ice cream for a special Valentine’s Day treat. I love using these Frozen Dessert Containers to package my ice cream. You can even personalize the containers, making them perfect for gifting. And if Roasted Strawberry Goat Cheese Ice Cream isn’t your cup of tea, you can try my Simple, Creamy Vanilla Ice Cream, or check out my Ice Cream Pinterest Board where you’re sure to find a flavor you love!

2.  Herb Infused Mint Chocolate Truffles | A Delightful Home

Perfect for the chocolate lover in your life! Plus, they seem super fancy and yet not too difficult to make. You could also infuse your truffles with vanilla, lavender, or just keep them plain chocolate if mint isn’t your thing.

3. Homemade Hot Cocoa Mix | Deliciously Organic

This would be perfect paired with some homemade marshmallows and a cute mug.

4. Herb Infused Honey | Simple Bites

This one takes 5-7 days, so if you start it today it would be ready on time. There’s a recipe for lemon-rosemary honey or vanilla bean-cardamom honey, which both sound lovely. Or you can get creative and come up with your own combo. I think lavender chamomile would make a great infusion as well.

DIY Body Care Gifts:

delightful frankincense & wild orange sugar scrub

5. Body Scrubs: Perfect for your sister, friend, mom, or daughter–or really anyone in your life (my husband actually loves using scrubs too!) These are a few of my favorites:

I like to package my scrubs in Plastic Jars so they don’t break in the shower, but Wide Mouth Mason Jars always work great as well.

6. Chocolate Peppermint Lotion Bars | A Delightful Home

You could make these lotion bars heart-shaped using this Heart Mold Pan. And you can use this same recipe to make lip balm too!

7. Whipped Body Butter | The Nourished Life

This recipe only requires ONE ingredient, but of course you can always add some essential oils in to scent it however you want. Or you can try this Mint Chocolate Whipped Body Butter if you’re going with a chocolate themed Valentine’s gift.

8. Lip Balm

If you’re making the chocolate peppermint lotion bars above, you can use the same recipe to make lip balm. Or you can try one of these easy recipes:

You can use these Lip Balm Tubes and personalize your own labels.

Get Crafty with these Sew-Easy Handmade Gifts:

9. Heart-shaped Hand-warmers | Modern Mrs. Darcy

Even for someone like me, with no sewing ability to speak of, these hand-warmers wouldn’t be too difficult to make. Plus, you could also mix in some dried lavender or add some essential oils to make them smell good too!

10. Felt Coffee Cozy | Life Your Way

Perfect for the coffee lover in your life. This also would pair well with the homemade hot cocoa mix and a chocolate peppermint lotion bar.

So, now I just have to decide what I want to make…I think the truffles are calling my name!